20 April 1996
updated 14 June 1997
RI-541i 'Correct and Joyful Confessional Procedure - Part I'
from Ambassador for Mankind
Message # RI-541i for Internet
"NEVER NEVER NEVER do a Confessional that defines
'non-survival act or omission' on the basis of
morals, rules, laws, agreements,
professional ethics, shameful acts, etc."
'Ambassador for Mankind'
SHOW this whole Bulletin
(and the next ones up to Part IV)
to the person who wants to confess,
and let him study it till he is really happy with it.
This does (and should) diminish your "authority" over him.
The only role you have is that of a friend
who is willing to help him because he asks for your help.
(see also
RI-857i 'Telepathy - Telepathic Auditor Training Course' of 29 May 97
http://Art-Org.com/ri-bulletins/ri-857i.htm -
the section on "Co-Audit")
Step 1. "WHICH NON-SURVIVAL ACT OF YOURS
WOULD YOU LIKE TO CONFESS, NOW?"
(For simplicity we consider a non-survival omission-to-act
also a 'non-survival act',
like the act
of not interfering,
of not speaking up,
of not informing, etc.)
You accept anything from
"winning one million dollars",
or "having sex with my spouse"
to "avoiding a fine for driving too fast".
(These examples are just to give you the idea
that you must NEVER reject answers
which are, at first glance to you,
not answering the question of what is non-survival.
You work this out on step two below.)
Step 2. "TELL ME ABOUT THAT ACT OF YOURS
TILL YOU YOURSELF ARE SATISFIED WITH
DESCRIBING IT TO ME AS A NON-SURVIVAL ACT."
Repeat step two.
If NO satisfaction can be achieved by repeating step two,
then say that it would be better to work together
on finding another non-survival act to confess to.
Go back to step one.
CONFESSIONALS VERSUS SECRETS, LAWS AND MORALS
NEVER NEVER NEVER do a Confessional that defines
'non-survival act or omission'
on the basis of
morals, rules, laws, agreements,
professional ethics, shameful acts, etc.
It is fine if someone tells you such things,
as these things are usually secrets he keeps from others.
But SECRETS IS NOT-NOT-NOT THE SUBJECT OF CONFESSIONALS.
A non-survival act someone committed
may be a secret,
or it may be public knowledge.
A secret does NOT AT ALL also make a non-survival act.
The password for your computer is a secret.
It is NOT a non-survival act to keep it secret from people.
Someone may have been correctly convicted and imprisoned
for taking and promoting and selling harmful drugs.
That this is public knowledge now,
does NOT stop it from being a non-survival act
on himself and on others.
That someone legally ruined another person's business,
does not make it less of a non-survival act against another or others,
just because it was done
without violating the law, and
just because it was done
within certain professional ethics and
within certain morals.
A person might be relieved to tell you some shameful act,
but after he told you,
he might conclude
that it was NOT a non-survival act or omission,
or he might conclude
that only NOT TELLING IT to his spouse, or to his boss,
was a non-survival act of omission.
MORALS RUIN CONFESSIONALS
NEVER NEVER NEVER do a Confessional that defines
'non-survival act or omission' on the basis of
morals, rules, laws, agreements,
professional ethics, shameful acts, etc.
This is because
it RUINS the results and gains
of any and all Confessionals, and
has ruined the gains and results of it
since time immemorial.
Let's say that seventy percent of
morals, laws, rules, agreements,
professional ethics, definitions of shameful acts, etc.
are correct, and are used correctly.
Maybe more, maybe less, depending on culture and civilization.
But the point here is
that ALL these agreements are ALSO used OCCASIONALLY
to make people cave themselves in, or
to force them to do non-survival acts,
"because the group demands it",
or because a particularly nasty person demands it.
It is ESPECIALLY those non-survival acts
that are done
WITH the support of morals or laws, and
because of, or sanctioned by group-agreements,
that are the most worthwhile to confess fully,
because
the environment, the group, or the family,
does NOT frown upon them.
These, when fully confessed
with the correct Confessional procedure
as given here and in Part II and III and IV,
cause the biggest resurgence and gains of a person,
when he is allowed to confess to these AS NON-SURVIVAL ACTS.
And it is ESPECIALLY
the REFUSAL to let someone confess to those fully,
which is extremely harmful to the individual confessing.
I can't stress this enough.
DON'T go into morals etc.
If it is ALSO a non-survival act
- meaning
HARMING THE SURVIVAL OF SELF
OR HARMING THE SURVIVAL OF OTHERS AND SO INDIRECTLY OF SELF -
then it IS a non-survival act or omission
and must be handled
with the full Confessional procedure, of course.
AWARENESS OF NON-SURVIVAL ACTS
Now be aware
that you can't have a black and white situation here.
Contrary to what certain
philosophies and political practices preach,
PEOPLE ARE VERY DIFFERENT FROM EACH OTHER.
The purpose of any Confessional is
to help someone to become more responsible
for the well-being of himself
AND
for the well-being of others.
So, from person to person,
you get wildly different answers to
a. What non-survival acts they want to confess.
b. What they consider non-survival acts or omissions.
Responsibility of a person increases
as more and more non-survival acts are handled
with all the steps of fully confessing to a non-survival act.
A person who is only aware of his own well-being,
will start to become aware of
the well-being of others, and of
how the well-being of others
will increase his own well-being in turn.
A person of high responsibility
who is mainly concerned with the well-being of others,
will start to realize
that his own well-being is very important
to his desire to help the well-being of others.
GETTING THE NON-SURVIVAL ACT
So, step two is, (repeated till satisfaction is achieved)
"Tell me about that act of yours
till you yourself are satisfied with
describing it to me as a non-survival act."
While doing step two, you may hear things
by which you will understand better
how the answer to the question of step one.
states, or points out, a non-survival act.
At the end of step two,
often by repeating the question several times,
you get a full and satisfying statement of the non-survival act.
It might not always be fully satisfying to you
who hears the confession
- that's tough luck for you.
You still have step three and step four to go,
(these are described in
RI-542i 'Correct and Joyful Confessional Procedure - Part II'
RI-545i 'Correct and Joyful Confessional Procedure - Part III'
RI-568i 'Correct and Joyful Confessional Procedure - Part IV')
and at the end of that
you SHOULD be satisfied.
(If NOT, you and the person confessing
have wildly opposing ideas of what is non-survival,
in which case
either he is a heavy criminal,
or your are, or both of you are,
or you, hearing the confession,
have committed similar non-survival acts
which you yourself have not yet confessed to
with full Confessional procedure.
In any such case, you don't continue,
but seek other partners for doing a Confessional,
or you first receive a Confessional yourself on the subject.)
UNDERSTANDING THE NON-SURVIVAL ACT
But by now, at step two, describing the non-survival act,
you should have some idea and understanding
what the confessant (person who confesses) is talking about, and
what he considers IS his non-survival act or non-survival omission.
You, the confessor (person guiding and listening to the confession),
should have some agreement by now with the confessant,
how it could be a non-survival act
from the viewpoint of the confessant.
The better you understand the confessant,
the higher his gains will be.
(Don't think you can get along with
pretending to understand another.
It does not work, and in most cases
it is harmful to - if not an outright heavy betrayal of -
the person who wants to be helped.
Keep any 'pretending to understand' entirely out of it.
If you don't understand something,
ask, and get understanding.)
DOMINATE AND ESCAPE
And we are not going to play any
domination game
like
'you, hearing the confession, are always right and
the confessant must change or continue
till YOU, the confessor, are satisfied'.
And we are not going to play any
escape-control game,
like
'the confessant is always right
and - no matter what the confessant says or does -
you, the confessor, must accept and respect anything and all
as "an expression of the other's viewpoint".'
Both of these extremes
VIOLATE the intention of you, the confessor,
to help the confessant,
and they VIOLATE the intention of the confessant
to want to be helped.
(see RI-263i 'Two Responses to Being Helped' of 20 Aug 1995
http://Art-Org.com/ri-bulletins/ri-263i.htm)
There is an age-old game of
wanting to dominate another, and
wanting to be dominated by another,
and of
wanting to escape domination, and
refusing to control another.
Try to keep this age-old stuff out of Confessionals,
both when you are hearing the confession of someone,
and when you are confessing to someone:
DON'T DOMINATE, and also
DON'T ESCAPE CONTROL.
The domination violates the intention
of the confessant to want to be helped.
You see,
you don't want to be DOMINATED when you want to confess.
Quite the contrary - you want to become free again
from having to repeat non-survival acts.
On the other hand,
letting the confessant escape answering the question,
refusing to exert correct and pleasant control,
violates or corrupts
the intention of you, the confessor, to help.
You want to help someone.
You want to help the confessant
to regain freedom to act and think.
So you are part of this, by your intention.
INTENTION TO HELP
It is YOUR intention to help life in general
that is at work here.
Don't let it be corrupted or invalidated.
So if someone comes up with
"My non-survival act is
that I stole sugar
from my mother's sugarpot",
then
you better get to find out
whether this was a real thing
that really is bothering the confessant,
or
whether he is intentionally wasting your time
(and anyone else's time as well, of course).
You have a right as confessor to help others,
and you have a right to ensure
that your efforts are not wasted.
As a confessant,
you also
have a right to BE helped, and
you must ensure - when you want to confess -
that your intention to be helped
is not misused and invalidated by the confessor,
or by anyone else of course too.
(The above are important points.
Continuous and even enforced and sanctioned
violation of these points
have almost completely destroyed the "Church" of Scientology,
by destroying the desire of its members
to be helped, and
by destroying the desire of its members
to help others.)
AGREEMENT BETWEEN CONFESSANT AND CONFESSOR
So,
if, by the END of step two,
(2. "Tell me about that act of yours
till you yourself are satisfied with
describing it to me as a non-survival act.")
there is sufficient agreement and genuine understanding
between confessor and confessant on the matter,
then
the intentions - respectively -
to be helped, and
to help
can be carried out, and
will be carried out,
in the next steps of the Confessional procedure.
The intentions to help and be helped will run their course.
If no agreement
can be reached at the end of step two,
then
it is better to find another non-survival act
by going back to step one
and then do step two again.
Or,
it may be best for the confessant
to look for another confessor,
and
it may be better for the confessor
to look for another confessant.
But otherwise, we assume
that sufficient agreement
has been established between the confessant and the confessor
to let their respective intentions
- to help the other and
to be helped by another -
run their course,
to the great joy of both the confessant and the confessor,
with step three and step four
(steps three and four are described in
RI-542i 'Correct and Joyful Confessional Procedure - Part II'
RI-545i 'Correct and Joyful Confessional Procedure - Part III'
RI-568i 'Correct and Joyful Confessional Procedure - Part IV').
You see, it is as much fun
to be a successful confessant
as it is fun to be a successful confessor!
There is great joy to be experienced in this action.
Don't let it be taken away from you or denied to you!
Continued in
RI-542i 'Correct and Joyful Confessional Procedure - Part II' 2 May 96
(http://Art-Org.com/ri-bulletins/ri-542i.htm)
RI-545i 'Correct and Joyful Confessional Procedure - Part III' 20 May 96
(http://Art-Org.com/ri-bulletins/ri-545i.htm)
RI-568i 'Correct and Joyful Confessional Procedure - Part IV' 14 June 97
(http://Art-Org.com/ri-bulletins/ri-568i.htm)
Koos Nolst Trenite - Ambassador for Mankind
Copyright 1996, 1997 by Koos Nolst Trenite
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References (available at the Library "http://Art-Org.com"):
(about the Telepathy Course)
RI-771i 'Use of Telepathy' of 4 Jan 1997
RI-881i 'Basics of Telepathy - Vital Data about You' of 11 June 1997
RI-857i 'Telepathy - Telepathic Auditor Training Course' of 29 May 1997
RI-857i-AS 'Telepathy Course - the Processes - Summary' of 2 June 1997
(the 'Understanding Suppression Series')
The 'Understanding Suppression Series':
http://Art-Org.com/ri-bulletins/usp.htm
(about using and understanding the E-meter)
RI-687i 'Notes on E-meter use and Solo-Auditing' of 4 Sept 96
RI-648i 'Simplicity of E-meter use, by UNDERSTANDING it' 1 Aug 96
RI-610i 'Understanding the E-meter, correctly' of 26 June 96
(about the importance and use of Confessionals)
RI-823i 'Truth, Justice, Sanity and Auditing - relationship' 7 Apr 97
RI-752i 'Case Supervision, the correct basics' of 30 Nov 1996
RI-010i 'Confronting a Suppressive' of 12 Oct 1994
RI-514Ri 'Confessionals and Blackmail - VERY IMPORTANT' 16 Mar 96
RI-710i 'A Protective Shell - Anchorpoints used wrongly' of 16 Oct 1996
RI-713i 'Handling Attacks Correctly - Space and Love' of 18 Oct 1996
RI-072Ri 'Auditing Assist for former Stuttgart Mission Holder' 22 Jan 96
RI-228Ri 'Auditing of AIDS- and Other Patients IS ALLOWED' 6 July 95
RI-528i 'How a responsible Scientologist can handle a death' 30 Mar 96
(some Bulletins on different types of Confession)
RI-769Ri 'Restoring Aliveness Rundown, SUPER POWER - Part I' 30 Dec 96
RI-795i 'Restoring Aliveness Rundown, SUPER POWER - Part II' 20 Feb 97
RI-553i 'Decency and Honesty - Condition of Hiding' 7 May 96
RI-702i '"Word Clearing" is Concept Clearing' of 25 Sept 1996
RI-382i 'Gradients and Low Conditions' of 2 Nov 1995
RI-407i 'Cleanup of ALL Scientologists' of 13 Dec 1995
RI-408i 'Emotional Charge about LRH - handling' of 13 Dec 95
RI-668i 'COMPLETE Scientology Data for Everyone, FOR FREE' 16 Aug 96
RI-668i-A 'COMPLETE Scientology Data FOR FREE - For AOL-users' 18 Aug 96
RI-770i '[ARCX's at Key-outs]' of 29 Nov 1996
RI-617i 'Controlling Evil Intentions, how' of 28 June 1996
RI-505i 'Running false ARCX's of Suppressive Persons' 9 Mar 96
(some Bulletins with Definitions for life)
RI-024i 'Definition of 'PTS' - IMPORTANT' of 19 Nov 1994
RI-252i-A 'Definition of Reality' of 5 Aug 1995
RI-602i 'Definition of Power' of 20 June 1996
RI-629i 'Definition of "Care"' of 12 July 1996
RI-631i 'Definition of "Woman"' of 12 July 1996
RI-226i 'On Simple Definitions of Scientology Terms' of 4 July 1995
RI-710i 'A Protective Shell - Anchorpoints used wrongly' of 16 Oct 1996
RI-714i 'State of Sanity, Definition of' of 24 Oct 1996
RI-797i 'A lively definition of "money"' of 21 Feb 1997
RI-735i '"Leadership" - Definition of Third Party' of 12 Nov 1996
RI-807Si '"Operating Thetan" defined' of 24 Mar 1997
RI-395Ri '"Ivory Tower" defined' of 2 Dec 1995
The 'Understanding Suppression Series'
(Definitions of 'Suppressive Person')
http://Art-Org.com/ri-bulletins/usp.htm
(about RI-Bulletins)
RI-380Ri 'Obtaining Truth from the RI-Bulletins' of 1 Nov 1995
RI-50RQi 'RI-xxxi series Archive - Content and Use' 28 Dec 94
Revised and Replaced on 6 March 1996
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