12 July 1996


                  RI-629i  'Definition of "Care"'


from Ambassador for Mankind


Message # RI-629i for Internet


(This is a further result of
 looking at the subject of people being 'kicked out'.)




A definition of 'care' is:

       "TO MAKE IT POSSIBLE FOR ANOTHER OR OTHERS
         TO BE THERE."



How do you care for a person?

        You make it possible for him or her to be there.


This applies to all conditions he or she is in -
 you make it possible for him or her to be there.

And I don't mean for his body to be there
 but I mean for him or her (the being) to be there.


For many people it is uncomfortable to be there,
 so they are rather 'not there'.

When you care for them, when you make them be there,
 they might first feel very uncomfortable,
  but at least 'there',
 and then you gradually make them
  feel more and more comfortable about being there.

You are doing this maybe naturally, for others,
 because you like people.
And you may be gifted with such a very precious quality,
 of naturally caring for people.



Now you won't manage to do that for everybody,
 because conditions in people like
 prejudice, irrationality, insanity and criminality
  are all intentions to NOT be there.


So you will have a hard time
  getting such people to BE there,
 or
 you will have a hard time
  finding out that in fact
   these people only want to PRETEND to be there.

By their pretense of being there
 they try to trick you
  into believing that you are successfully caring for them,
 but this is part of their plot, their strategy,
  to make you STOP your efforts to care for them:

   They simply make you believe
    that they ARE 'there' now,
     so that you can take your attention off them.
   But as soon as you turn around
    they run to the first drug-pusher,
    or to the first whore-house,
    and pump themselves full of drugs or alcohol
     in order to execute their intention to NOT BE THERE:
       to not be there in the position in life
        which they are in fact occupying,
        like being a father, or being an employee,
         or simply being a friend to somebody.


I am just telling you the hard part of caring,
  so that you don't get disappointed or disheartened
   when applying this definition.


Some people are thoroughly 'not wanting to be there',
 yet are being very loud and very annoying to others.

They don't at all perceive
  what or who is actually around them,
 they are 'not there' where they are
  loudly and annoyingly communicating to you or others.
   (see RI-85RBi 'Institutional Cases on a.r.s' of 8 Feb 1995)

Such people are intentionally hiding
 the actual past situations and past acquaintances of theirs
  whom they are still now shouting to, or
  whom they are still now criticizing,
 and in fact they are not really talking to YOU
  or writing about YOU at all.

They are stuck in situations which they are hiding,
 and the condition they are in, is
   a Condition of Hiding
   (see RI-553i 'Decency and Honesty - Condition of Hiding' 7 May 96).



The definition of 'caring' is

        "MAKING IT POSSIBLE FOR OTHERS TO BE THERE."


You are applying this naturally anyway,
 without giving it a thought
  HOW you are going about caring for people.

Especially when you DO define it,
 you can also describe the traps
 and avoid them much more easily.

And, you will be or can be
 VERY SUCCESSFUL IN CARING FOR PEOPLE,
  when applying the definition to those
    who WANT to be cared for by you, to those
    who LIKE to be cared for by you, to those
    who are most EASILY cared for.


Take the easiest people first,
 like me, for instance.


It is very EASY to care for me:

        It is doing things to
         make it possible
         or to
         make it MORE possible
          for me
           to be there.

        To be there for you,
         to be there for others,
         to be there for myself also.


with love to all of you,

Koos (see www.trenite.de)



Koos Nolst Trenite - Ambassador for Mankind

Copyright 1996 by Koos Nolst Trenite


 references:
  RI-19i   'Artists and Ethics' of 10 Sept 1992
  RI-592i  'How To Look At People' of 5 June 1996

  RI-269i  'How to Handle Irresponsible People' of 26 Sept 1995
  RI-537i  'The Right to Demand Awareness' of 15 Apr 1996
  RI-602i  'Definition of Power' of 20 June 1996

  RI-242Ri 'Being There - Freedom to Act' of 22 July 1995
  RI-235i  'Handling people with Understanding' of 14 July 1995
  RI-617i  'Controlling Evil Intentions, how' of 28 June 1996

  RI-541i  'Correct and Joyful Confessional Procedure - I' 20 Apr 96
  RI-542i  'Correct and Joyful Confessional Procedure - II' 2 May 96
  RI-545i  'Correct and Joyful Confessional Procedure - III' 20 May 96


  RI-408i  'Emotional Charge about LRH - handling' of 13 Dec 1995
  RI-514i  'Confessionals and Blackmail - VERY IMPORTANT' 16 Mar 96
  RI-553i  'Decency and Honesty - Condition of Hiding' of 7 May 1996

  RI-503i  'Walking amongst the dead' of 6 Mar 1996
  RI-505i  'Running false ARCX's of Suppressive Persons' of 9 Mar 96
  RI-ACT-24R 'KNT-Tech for SP's' (Revised) of 29 Nov 1996

  RI-58Ri  'Fair Game Series - Treatment of Enemies' of 1 Jan 95
  RI-444i  'The Practice of "SP-declares"' of 5 Jan 1996
  RI-487i  'Dialogue: On Enemies and Hostility' of 20 Feb 1996
  RI-535i  '"An Enemy of my Enemy is my Friend" = INSANE' 10 Apr 96


  RI-50RQi 'RI-xxxi series Archive - Content and Use' 28 Dec 94
               Revised and Replaced on 6 March 1996

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