14 January 1997
                                                Broad Public Issue 16 Jan 97


          RI-781BPI  'Raising Children - or Keeping Them Small?'


from Ambassador for Mankind

Message # RI-781BPI for Internet



Broad Public Issue

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To all parents
To all teachers and other educational officials
To all children
To all government personnel responsible
       for education or children or family





       "Do you also raise children,
         or do you rather keep them small?"

                        'Koos Nolst Trenite' (30 August 1981)



Children are told all the time
  that
     "they are not responsible",
     "they don't have to be responsible",
     "they are not allowed to take responsibility
       'because they are only children'",
     "they are not aware of things that are going on",
     "they have no judgement yet", and so on.

Now tell THAT to a RESPONSIBLE BIG BEING
  who happens to have a little child's body!

                        'Koos Nolst Trenite' (8 November 1996)



It is a fairy-tale
  that children like to be irresponsible.

The truth is that practically all children nowadays
  are carefully educated into being irresponsible.

They are forced into irresponsibility
   - each time they by themselves are interested
      in doing something or having something -
  because
   they are told to be interested in something else than...
   they are being told to do something else than...
   they are being told
     not to touch or
     not to have something,
     and to touch or have something else than...
        ...what they by themselves WERE interested in!

They are told to learn subjects at school
  for which they have no use, or
  for which they are not given an understanding
    that they will USE it and HOW they will use it.

They are prevented
   from earning money and
   from caring for their own possessions,
    often up to the age of 18 years.


This, and only this, creates
 a psychologist's fictive condition called 'puberty' -
  which is solely a condition
    of being PREVENTED
      from taking responsibility
        for one's own life,
        for one's own taste,
        for having one's own living-space to take care of, and
      from INCLUDING in that own space
       the responsibility, of course,
        for the family-members one is living with.

Some parents even stoop so low
  that they prevent a child
    from eating what it likes and
     force it to eat what it doesn't like.


All this is then justified with
    "The child doesn't know what is good for him"
  instead of teaching a child
   the consequences of doing or not doing something
    as it applies
     to his own well-being and
     to the well-being of others.
  And to teach these things
   with enough love
    so that the child also understands it.


It has been another poisonous gift of psychology
   - the very philosophy of
       "You mustn't be responsible - so that I, the psychologist,
         can be as insane and as destructive as I want to be,
          and can be so, unhindered by responsible people" -
 to say that
    "Children have no ethics
      and are not capable of responsibility".


My own children,
   brought up to take as much responsibility
    as they show to be able to handle,
  not only
    have never been sick, and
     never had any children's diseases,
  they also
    are a living proof
      that children are normally
        very ethical and very responsible,
         as long as one lets them.


                        'Koos Nolst Trenite' (4 December 1995)




Irresponsibility has very little to do with
  whether the person is a child or an adult.

In fact,
  when something happened around a child
    which concerned the child,
     and
  when the child is then PREVENTED
   from taking responsibility for what happened, then
    that is again raising them towards irresponsibility.

Such times, when they are prevented from taking responsibility,
  can be very aberrative for children.

It has been a fashion
  not to let children look at bad conditions or at evil.
 The fact is
  that children often are much more capable
   of looking at evil than adults are.

So this is another effort to deny responsibility to children.


I find it a very dirty trick to a child to say
   "We are are going on a holiday to some nice country",
 when in fact the child is on a train to Treblinka
  to be murdered and to see his friends and family murdered
   in an extermination-factory.

        [Treblinka:  A town in Poland where Jews and their families
           were brought to be murdered
             "for being Jewish by birth or by religion",
            during the Nazi-regime of Adolf Hitler and his helpers.]

You are depriving the child
   from any responsibility for his own life, and
   from any responsibility for the lives of others.

"We don't visit Uncle Jobert today because he feels a bit ill",
  instead of telling the child that Uncle Jobert
   has turned enemy and refuses ever to see the child again.

The child says, quite incorrectly,
  based on the false data given to it,
     "Poor Uncle Jobert!
       I will make a nice fruit-basket for him
        so he will soon be healthy again."

But enemies are not handled at all by
  thinking they are friends and by sending them fruit-baskets!


So it's just an effort here
   to MAKE the child irresponsible,
   to prevent the child
     from himself handling anything or
     from himself giving any correct contribution to a handling,
 in fact, it is simply an effort
   to try and force the child
    to be idiotic and to do idiotic things!
 (And that is then offered as "proof"
   that the child IS irresponsible.)


Now, some children - as well as some adults - ARE irresponsible.
  But that's because they are psychotic.
   That's not the subject here.

The only difference is
   that adults have learned better
     to hide their psychoticness, and
   they know better tricks
     with which to enforce on others
      that others accept their irresponsibility.

But that's talking about psychotics.
 Some children are psychotic, and some adults
  - those who were psychotic as children - are psychotic.



The message is:
    IN GENERAL, CHILDREN ARE RESPONSIBLE BEINGS
      WHO NEED ENOUGH CORRECT DATA AND UNDERSTANDING
        TO EXECUTE THEIR RESPONSIBILITY.


                        'Koos Nolst Trenite' (4 December 1993)




Please remember these things,
  should the honor befall you
   to have me as your child in my next lifetime.



Koos Nolst Trenite - Ambassador for Mankind

Copyright 1981, 1993, 1996, 1997 by Koos Nolst Trenite


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References:

  RI-734i  'Orienting Children' of 13 Nov 1996
  RI-738Si 'Christianity - Love, and Guilt solved' of 17 Nov 1996
  RI-537i  'The Right to Demand Awareness' of 15 Apr 1996
  RI-592i  'How To Look At People' of 5 June 1996
  RI-629i  'Definition of "Care"' of 12 July 1996
  RI-714i  'State of Sanity, Definition of' of 24 Oct 1996
  RI-759i  'Understanding a Typical Marriage Problem' of 12 Dec 1996
  RI-631i  'Definition of "Woman"' of 12 July 1996
  RI-602i  'Definition of Power' of 20 June 1996
  RI-704Ri 'Real Art is not hard to understand' of 30 Sept 1996
  RI-705i  'Society Resurgence, Use of Rules' of 9 Oct 1996
  RI-750i  'Crimes are not motivated by money' of 30 Nov 1996
  RI-126Ri 'Koos Nolst Trenite - identity' of 29 Mar 1995