31 January 1994
                                              Issued 10 February 1997


  USP-028  'Tact and diplomacy in "handling" a Suppressive Person'


Understanding Suppression Series # 28

(See Footnote for understanding)



One of many definitions of 'Suppressive Person':

Someone who only looks at you in order to make sure that you don't
see his evil and his pretense.

When he has established for himself that you do not see or don't want
to be aware of his evil and his pretense, then you are "good" and
"full of understanding for him".
When he believes that you DO see his evil and his pretense, then you
are "bad" and "don't like him".
This has little to do with whether you ARE actually aware of his evil
and pretense.
So - even when you are NOT aware of his evil and his pretense, if he
THINKS that you are or that you probably are aware of his evil, you
are "bad".


If he thinks you are or might be aware of his evil, he will do the
most evil things and spread the most idiotic lies about you and make
others attack you SO THAT YOU DO NOT HAVE ENOUGH ATTENTION FREE TO
LOOK AT HIS EVIL AND AT HIS PRETENSE, because now you have to figure
out why people - who were before perfectly friendly and helpful to
you - now suddenly dislike you and suddenly refuse to help you or
even refuse to talk to you!


But the first principle and the guiding principle of the
Suppressive Person is:
"You are 'good' when you DON'T see his evil and pretense.
 You are 'bad' when you DO see his evil".
Again, regardless of what you are ACTUALLY aware of, about him.


From this principle we get various definitions and practices
described with the word 'tact' and with the word 'diplomacy', which
are supposed to "handle" suppressive people.

These definitions of the word 'tact' and these practices of
'diplomacy' - supposedly to appease a Suppressive Person - ALWAYS
backfire, because the Suppressive Person "'knows' that YOU are a
Suppressive Person".

As a consequence of that he tells others that he is only handling YOU
with 'tact' and with 'diplomacy' while he is telling others the
"truth" - his "truth" - about you, which "truth about you" they must
of course not inform you about for reasons of 'tact' and 'diplomacy',
and 'to not hurt your feelings'.

By allowing or supporting this 'tact' and 'diplomacy', you give
Suppressive Persons an almost free license to spread lies about
others and about you ("in order not to hurt your feelings"(!)).

If you allow others to be 'diplomatic' and 'tactful' towards
yourself, you are practically signing your own death-sentence,
because of how Suppressive Persons will use it on you, as above.


When you HAVE signed this death-sentence on yourself, when you
consider your only survival lies in demanding of others to be
'tactful' and to be 'diplomatic' towards you, then you yourself have
become a Suppressive Person.

Napoleon Bonaparte forced others to be 'tactful' and 'diplomatic'
towards him. Hitler did. L. Ron Hubbard did in the second half of
his life. Any Suppressive Person does try to force his entourage
to do so.

And his entourage thinks - or must show that they think - that he is
very brilliant and clever and that it is therefore offensive to him
to submit one's own opinion and one's own, less brilliant, less
clever evaluations, and anyway "he looks through you and knows your
thoughts".

But all the 'piercing looking at you' a Suppressive Person is
willing to do is:  "Do you or do you not see my evil?"


When you think that you get actual true help from a Suppressive
Person, then you are in for a surprise - and for very confusing
experiences.
It may seem like help, it can even be substantial financial help,
or he may help you to get out of bad trouble.
But THAT is not his INTENTION.

All the "help" and assistance he is willing to give you actually has
the purpose to make you not look at him.
And when you accept THAT "help" from him, then you are a "good boy",
a "true friend" to him.

And all the "help" that he really wants from you in exchange is that
you don't actually look at his evil, and that you encourage others
not to look at his evil, so that he is only seen as "a true friend".

To translate it in more logical but very impolite, undiplomatic,
tactless terms, the Suppressive Persons should be quoted as:
 "If you help me to destroy myself and life, then you are really
  helping me, and if you don't, then you are my enemy and I will
  destroy you.
  In both cases I want actually to destroy you and life, but I
  rather want that you make it easy on me by assisting me in it."



Koos Nolst Trenite - Ambassador for Mankind
Copyright 1994, 1997 by Koos Nolst Trenite

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Footnote:

You can't have or maintain good without understanding evil.

NONE of the present sciences, therapies and religions, and
none of the "-isms" or "-ologies" of today understand evil
or suppression.

Yet they have abundant - and sometimes very expensive -
recipes for "being good forever". Even when they claim to
understand evil, they want to be unaware of and hide their
own evil and so they become evil themselves, and they meet
evil with evil in order "to defend themselves or their group".

It is not possible to handle properly someone who is evil or
something that is evil WITHOUT understanding WHAT PRECISELY
you are handling.

YOU CAN'T HANDLE AN EVIL BEING, FOR INSTANCE, UNLESS YOU
UNDERSTAND THAT YOU ARE HANDLING A BEING, AND THAT YOU ARE
HELPING HIM - A BEING - TO CONTROL HIS EVIL.

The Understanding Suppression Series will help you - maybe
for the first time - to understand evil well enough in order
to maintain good. I have taken care to write as easy to
understand as possible. The Series starts out very simple,
and currently consists of about 150 separate observations.

Keeping this knowledge to yourself will not maintain good
- because others, lacking understanding of evil, will
unintentionally assist evil - but you sharing this knowledge
with others WILL make you win over evil, and WILL safeguard
good.

                                    Koos Nolst Trenite